So, Harry and I had one of those talks today that I never see coming. He was talking about different things they do at school and mentioned saying the pledge of allegiance. He asked me if I say the pledge of allegiance. And I said "no".
He asked me why and I explained that I pledge my allegiance to God and to Jesus. I explained that I also feel allegiance to the church and to our family. Then he asked me what "pledge" means. I explained that it meant promise, and that a pledge of allegiance is a promise to be loyal, to stand by the decisions of those who you pledge allegiance to. And that I can't make that promise to America. I don't hate America and I appreciate that I have freedoms as an American that others might not have, depending upon where they live. Still, in the end, I cannot promise my loyalty to my country the way I would to my wife or my son or my church or, especially, my God.
My not saying the pledge of allegiance is not an indictment on those that do so much as an effort to say what I mean. There are those whose allegiance the United States can count on and so it makes sense for them to say the pledge. But there are too may things that the United States cannot count on me for (including working in the military) for me to be able to say it and mean it.
This is one of those areas where I'm afraid to stand out and yet feel that I can't avoid it. It's a stand that I don't force on others, but one I must make myself. I do whatever I can not to be obnoxious about it or draw attention to it (other than the occasional blog), but I know that it still bothers people when they stand next to me at a ball game or event and I stand quiet next to them. And I don't like to bother people. But I can't see any way around it.